First, I want to explain the difference between poor communication and an unhealthy actor-agent relationship to make sure that's not your issue, then we'll dive into communication tips.

An actor friend of mine asked if we could talk one day about a strange interaction she had with her agent. She'd only been signed with her for a few months.

She said, "I think this is weird. I'm not sure if this is right." When I heard and read the really negative comments being made to my friend, that I knew were not true about her, I was shocked. 
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I said, "Look, you need to be done with this particular agency. You need to write your 30-day written notice. This is not just an issue of poor communication. This is straight up unhealthy." 

So when you have a negative feeling, or you feel like there's a red flag that goes beyond poor communication, ask other people in this business that you trust for their opinion.

You may need to make the hard decision to step away from your agency. If you're wondering, "Should I change my acting agent?" then ask yourself, "Is this interaction good for me?"

I want you to listen to that warning if you have it because that shouldn't be the case. Communication is one of the key components of an actor-agent relationship.

After hearing about my friend's issue, I immediately wrote my agency a quick email saying, "Hey, thanks so much for always looking for the silver lining and trying to stay positive. I really appreciate that. Here's what I just heard from another friend, and I'm glad that's not true for us."

That type of negative interaction is not anything I would ever expect my agency to do. so I let them know I was thankful. I'd encourage you to do the same if you're in a good situation. Healthy communication can be that simple. If you're thankful for something, tell your agent! They're humans that need encouragement, too.

If you are in a good situation, and I hope you are like I am, then I want you to be proactive. We're gonna break down tips and tricks that I've personally used in this post.

Hey, if you don't have an agent yet, actor friend, that's okay. You're gonna get one one day. So stick with me because there's really a lot of trial and error in this business for figuring out what works and what doesn't.

I mean outside of learning your craft and getting coaching on your talent it's like, "Where's the manual? Someone tell me!" I want you to hear these tips and tricks about what the actor-agent relationship should look like in case you're asking yourself, "I have an acting agent--now what?"

Avoid accusatory questions such as, "Why aren't you submitting me more?" They most likely are! If instead you ask what they need from you, it puts the responsibility back on you where it should be.

But what if they're not submitting you? Most actors don't realize this, but you can ask your agent to send you a breakdown of roles they've submitted you for this year. Good agents are happy to send it.

Try to make this request feel like a team effort, though. You should be looking at your submissions list to analyze that data. What types of productions did they submit you for? Which casting directors consistently turn down an audition from you? Are they submitting you for guest star roles when you don't even have co-star or U5 roles yet? 

Let's say you have enough principal commercial roles to be ready for a national commercial, but you realize they haven't submitted you for any national commercial auditions. Have you communicated that goal? 

It's important that you ask for feedback in a situation like this. Here's an example of how I suggest you communicate:

"Hey, I feel like I've booked enough commercials that I'm ready for a national commercial. I noticed I haven't been submitted for any. What needs to happen from your perspective to make that a reality? Thanks so much for your input and help!"

You may find out that there simply aren't any national commercials filming in your area. It could be that they don't have enough of your commercial footage to submit a strong demo for you. It might be that industry trends are changing, and digital commercials are taking over in lieu of national commercials (which is actually true). 

Feel free to ask for your submissions list, but make sure to ask from a place of openness that promotes teamwork. 

I've heard a lot of different opinions on this topic, so I'll share my experience.

I do not ask for audition feedback. I've never once asked my agent to contact a casting director for me, but I've had casting directors reach out to my agent about me for positive feedback.

Typically, if a casting director wants to send you notes, they're gonna contact your talent agent, then your talent agent is gonna send that to you.

I've also had a situation where I was in an actual casting office and one of the casting directors came up to me to give me feedback face-to-face about a particular client really liking me.

She didn't need to take time out of her day to tell me that, but she did. They will tell you! The information will get to you, okay? Casting directors love giving actors good news or helping them reach the next level when they see potential.

When you do get that golden, rare in-person audition now-a-days, I want you to pay attention to what they're saying to you while you're in the room. That's feedback!

You may notice that casting directors are giving you the same note over-and-over again. That's feedback. You may notice that they consistently ask you to try again without moving too much. That's feedback.

The best time for you to ask casting for feedback directly is while you're in the room. You already have them as a captive audience, but make it quick and specific.

Weak Question: Do you think I'm a good actor?
Strong Question: Do you feel like I took the note you gave me, or should I go further next time?

Weak Question: Are my auditions good?
Strong Question: Are my objectives being clearly communicated?

Weak Question: Why am I not getting more callbacks?
Strong Question: How's my energy when I walk into the room?

I think this is best done when you're in a solo audition on a low-key audition day. Avoid days when the lobby is packed. Never ask for feedback at a callback in front of a client (i.e. directors/producers).

Notes will go through the right channels if you need it, that channel being your talent agent, if not to you directly in the room. There's no need to email your talent agent in my experience.

Go with your gut on this, but my two cents is that I haven't asked for it, and I've gotten it.

I'm always surprised at how often I see audition emails or postings that need to highlight a request to confirm or decline an audition. This is a very standard practice for our industry.

Confirm or decline every single audition no matter what. It's super quick and simple to shoot them back an email.

Sometimes you'll be instructed to decline through the system (i.e. Actors Access), but I say send your agent an email as well letting them know you did.

I declined through the system once, and my agent didn't see it, so they reached out to me a couple of days later reminding me to submit the audition. So play it safe if you're declining through a casting system, and email your agent letting them know you declined.

UPDATE: If you decline on Actor's Access on your phone, you must scroll up to the popup box to type in a reason to finish declining. Otherwise, nothing will go through, and it will look like you didn't do your part to decline through the system.

Hey Actor Boss, you do not need to give a lot of detail about why you're declining. Some of the best advice I've ever gotten was to simply put "not available." Your agent will reach out to you if they're curious as to why, but even then, keep it short and sweet.

Speaking of short and sweet, keep all of your emails to the point. If your email is a paragraph, ask yourself how you can compress it down to two sentences max.  

I like to add details to my confirmation emails just to make sure we're on the same page. I will say, "Confirmed Tues 11/12 at (Casting Office Name) 1:00pm Thanks," because sometimes the date and times don't match so they may catch that and clarify. 

Also, I made a mistake once of writing a huge long email to my talent agent without giving them a heads up it was coming. It was in reference to information security, but I should've sent them a short email asking them if I could send them more info about the topic first. In fact, I should have first asked them what security measures they have in place.

I recently booked out for vacation, and when I got back, there was an audition email in my inbox for a SAG commercial that I hadn't responded to! So I'm now implementing a new system.

Spurgeon's 3-Step Booking Out Process:

1. Book out ASAP, ideally 2-4 weeks in advance.
2. Send a reminder email a few days before your book out dates.
3. Schedule an email auto-responder saying you're away from your email.

First, please book out and let your agent know if you won't be available to audition, even via self-tape. If you can't go to an in-person audition, but you can self-tape, then don't book out.

I would still send them an email letting them know that you can't do any in-person auditions, but will have access to self-taping. If they forget, just request a self-tape in lieu of the in-person.

But I personally book out when I can't attend an in-person or film a self-tape. I let them know that I'm on vacation, and I'm not working or self-taping.

Let's park here for a second. Are you okay fully booking out and stepping away from auditions for a few days? You really need that freedom to clear your mind and get away sometimes.

Are you planning your weeks and months in advance? Because if you're not, it's gonna be hard for you to know when those book out dates are coming up in your schedule.

I try to book out at the beginning of the month by saying, "Hey here are all of my book out dates for April." Sometimes things will happen a little closer to the date, and I'll need to book out last minute. That's ok! Just be sure to do it.

It's so crucial to let your agent know because they need to go into your casting profile to mark those dates. That's something only they can do, at least on Breakdown Services, that actors don't have access to on Actors Access yet.

Your agent needs to fill that audition spot with different talent if you're unavailable, which makes the casting director's life easier as well. Include a reason for booking out if you want, but keep that short, too.

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I was on set recently chatting with another actor and we had this rare opportunity where the director was hanging out with us.

They're usually really busy on a shoot. 

Instead of utilizing this moment, guess what happened?

I noticed she was shifting her weight and looking around as if she needed someone else to talk to. Yikes.

We weren't including her in the conversation! We were just talking about actor things.

What most actors do (and we're all guilty of it) is we somehow shift the conversation to talking about ourselves and all of our booked gigs.

There's a reason our brains move in that direction.

We're validating that we're actors, that we've booked, and we almost need to hear ourselves say our bookings out loud to remind ourselves of this truth.

Instead, I want you to be an actor that asks questions.

This is the first step in becoming an actor everyone loves on set.

Good news! Asking thoughtful questions has nothing to do with how talented you are.

Talent and professionalism are an expectation: we show up, know our lines, make strong choices, and are able to swap those choices out when asked.

I'm gonna give you three questions to help you kickstart conversations in this post and explain why they're important.

You can ask these questions regardless of who you're interacting with on set to get a conversation rolling.

If you think constantly self-promoting is the answer, think again.

I was so excited to work with an actor on a shoot this year that I have admired from afar for some time now.

We were on set all day together.

He was fantastic at just asking people questions.

I'm talking all day. I'm talking a 12 hour plus a day. It was crazy.

And he has a very established resume with TV shows that I know you watch that are very popular shows.

Still, he was great at being interested and not just trying to be interesting.

He books, and I'm telling you there's a correlation.

Let's look at another reason you should ask questions.

Sometimes it just so happens that you do end up interacting with the director when you're on a break.

I was on lunch break once, and the director came and sat at my table. Oh snap.

If that happens to you, I want you to be prepared to ask normal questions that take the focus away from you and put it onto the other person.

Hey, that sounds just like a scene! See? You're already good at this.

Let's start with an easy icebreaker question.

First ask, "Are you from here?" If it's obvious they're not then ask, "Hey where are you from?"

You're gonna get some backstory about how they ended up there or if they're from the area.

Why does this matter?

You never know if you guys share a similar story, city, or acquaintance. There's nothing that bonds people more than commonality in my opinion.

Yale cites a study by Avner Ben-Ner and Amit Kramer entitled Do We Prefer People Who Are Similar to Us? Experimental Evidence on Giving and Work Behaviors (pdf link) completed​ at the University of Minnesota: 

"Our findings indicate that people are more willing to give to, share an office with, commute with, and work on a critical project critical to their advancement with individuals who are similar to themselves (Self) along a particular identity dimension than with individuals who are dissimilar (Other). However, the magnitudes of these differences depend on the particular identity category."

I think this means we're constantly searching for some basis of commonality to relate to in other people, however small. 

I want to interject here that I'm all for diversity and hanging out with people that don't look, think, sound, or believe the same as me. It challenges my thinking and forces me to grow as a person.

Even still, human nature compels us to find something in common with people that are seemingly different than us so we can find an avenue to understand each other better.

Think about your own behaviors.

Don't you get excited when you find out you're from the same city as someone else? What about the same suburb?

Your voice changes in the very next sentence, typically going higher while you smile saying, "Oh yeah?!"

You know what I'm talking about, actor friend.

What if you had that type of connection with a more established actor, director, or producer on set?

You won't--unless you break the ice.

Asking questions requires you to be curious.

Everyone has a reason for being in this crazy business instead of "getting real jobs" like most people tell us to do.

Hmph. At least until someone becomes a celebrity and makes millions. What do you think they were doing before that payday?! I digress.

Doesn't that make you curious as to why the people you're working with decided to take the crazy route like you?

Maybe it's the same reason you did (commonality and bonding to ensue!) or maybe it's random, which will prompt you to ask more questions.

Now that the ice is broken, your second question is, "So what got you interested in (fill-in-the-blank)?"...acting, directing, producing, just depending on who you're talking to.

Again, you're gonna get backstory and insight into that person's goals, dreams, and aspirations.

I also think that hearing how different everyone's story is will remind you that there's no one way to make it in this business.

You'll not only help build that person's confidence by allowing them to practice self-expression, you'll also benefit from being an active listener.

Listening to their story may spark an idea in you about how to pursue your career in a way you haven't thought of yet.

Check out these tips from The Law of Attraction on how to be an active listener (see Tip 4!):

Being an active listener will have a number of benefits for you as an actor since you need to network to survive. 

Read this Inc.com article on five benefits of listening well at work, or in our case, on set:

1. Build mutual trust
2. Increase productivity
3. Stay calm in crisis 
4. Boost confidence
5. Make fewer mistakes

Let's look to the future.

Follow up with a third question, "Okay then what is your ultimate dream job, or are you already doing it?"

You'll get more insight and understanding about their goals.

That's really gonna help you in your future interactions with them so you can follow up on those answers.

Maybe they're doing a lot of commercials jobs right now, but they want to get into the indie circuit.

The next time you see them you can ask, "Hey, have you been able to work on any indie flicks?"

Being supportive of others' dreams is a great way to stand out from the crowd because so many people are only focused on their own success.

I mean how do you feel when someone remembers something important to you from a random conversation you had?

I, for one, have never seen anyone get upset with me over this--only impressed that I remembered. 

So that means you need to remember what it was that you guys talked about.

If you need to take notes to remember, do it.

You should have a spreadsheet for your booked gigs anyway. 

In the notes section, put who you chatted with and what you guys chatted about so you can follow up on that information the next time you work with them.

That is gonna make you look like an Actor Boss for sure.

By asking this third question, you're giving someone the freedom and opportunity to share their goals (if they want to), which gives you the chance to encourage them.

This NCBI study concludes that encouragement does actually have an impact on the brain (pdf link).

All of this leads to you being someone who is interested in others, supports their ambitions, and makes their brains feel positive emotions. 

People like to talk about themselves. A lot.

Time Magazine discusses a Harvard Study that led to this conclusion while watching people's brains: "humans get a biochemical buzz from self-disclosure."

Why not be the source of that buzz? 

This means you need to be ok with the fact that you may not get asked questions about yourself. 

However, if you're genuinely interested in other people's stories and how you can learn from them, you won't have any hard feelings when you walk away from the conversation.

We can't discuss this topic without citing author Dale Carnegie who said, "Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours."

HubSpot did an amazing job of summarizing Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People. The original page has an easier to read graphic.

Christy Wright, founder of the Business Boutique Academy, says something I love on her Business Boutique Podcast Ep. 59:

"Meet new people. Every opportunity you will ever have in your life will come through meeting people...

...No man or woman is an island. When you’re in these types of environments, it’s a great opportunity to meet people who are in your exact shoes or even a little farther along.

It’s on you to choose to build relationships."

I want to focus on one part of this quote: every opportunity you will ever have in your life will come through meeting people.

Have you ever thought about that? 

If you're a Type-A do it yourself kinda actor like me that always pushes to create their own opportunities, surely this is a wakeup call for you, too. 

I believe that we should work to create opportunities for ourselves, but we need to add relationships to the mix as well. 

How different could your career be one year from now just because a director says something positive about you?

It only takes one sentence from another person to potentially change the trajectory of your career. "Yea, I really liked working with them," versus, "I had a bad experience working with them."

Let me explain.

When I attended the New York Film Academy one summer in college, there was a beautiful foreign actress in my class.

She was big stuff in her country, too.

On the last day of our scene study class, she disagreed with a note our teacher gave her, and she lost her crap. I mean truly showed her butt and said really mean things to him.

She elevated her success above his and disrespected him in front of everyone.

It was awkward.

This teacher, by the way, was responsible for helping a now recognizable actor have a personal breakthrough during one of our classes that I think made a huge difference in his acting.

Our teacher had a solid resume. I was really thankful that we had him as one of our coaches. His class was one of my favorites.

The rest of us left that day asking each other, "What the heck was she thinking?"

Can I tell you what else we all said?

"I'm not sure I could ever recommend her."

Look, people have bad days and people (hopefully) grow and develop as adults. 

But the way she attacked our teacher was harsh, beyond the excuse of a bad day. When we tried to stop her, she attacked all of us!

Would I want to put my reputation on the line with a director or producer for her knowing she may do that again? Not likely.

If anyone ever asks me if I've worked with her before, I would be compelled to tell that story. Even if I ended it with giving her the benefit of the doubt, what would you think?

Being interested other people is a surefire way to guard yourself from being hurtful or harmful to one of your co-workers.

Sometimes people just aren't going to like you, but don't let it be because you were the one misbehaving.

I'm telling you if you're an actor that's really that interested in other people it's gonna go well for you.

We are inundated with self-promotion nowadays, so do the opposite. Be interested in others.

If you know any other actors that need this information please feel free to share this post. 

Next week we're going to talk about casting office do's and don'ts. 

I have some really good tips for you that I've gotten good feedback on, and another story that is gonna make you cringe a little bit so don't miss that.

Do you have set etiquette tips you'd like to share? Feel free to put those in the comments at the bottom of this post.

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Let's discuss a very dangerous mindset a lot of actors have. Most of us have believed the lie that our success comes with quick moments of "hitting it big." 

What if our acting success actually came from the simple day-to-day habits that we practice?

A few years ago, a mentor sent me a book and told me to start reading for at least 10 minutes a day to kickstart my personal development.

I'm not sure why I wasn't already practicing that habit. I love learning, and I've always been a good student, but somehow adulthood stripped that away from me.

Plus, crazy successful experts are literally giving us their answers word-for-word and helping us bypass their mistakes by taking us straight to the best practices.

Disclosure: Hey Actor Boss, I have affiliate links in this post, which means at zero extra cost to you, I make a commission if you purchase through my link. I made the decision to add affiliate links so I can keep this blog up and running, but I'm only linking to products I know, use, and trust and would recommend to you in face-to-face convo.

The book was Darren Hardy's bestselling book The Compound Effect. This was the first personal development book I read as an adult, and it inspired me to create my daily habits list. He teaches that our success is based on the (sometimes boring) day-to-day tasks we complete.

The habits of successful actors consist of any tasks they need to complete on a daily basis to reach their ultimate long-term goals. These can also be referred to as Habit Goals, a concept I learned from leadership expert Michael Hyatt.

Creating your daily habits list will require you to think long-term. What goals do you want to achieve in the next year? Visualize achieving those goals, then reverse engineer them into simple tasks that you can incorporate into your actor daily routine.

For example, I want to become fluent in French so that I can add a foreign language to the special skills section of my acting resume. That means I need to form a daily habit of completing three Duolingo French modules to reach that goal. 

In this post, I will share seven habits that I think should be included in the daily life of an actor. Adjust these habits to fit your routine. I'll list examples from my own life to get you started.

These habits should be transferred to a checklist on your phone that you can look at daily. I use the Awesome Note app thanks to a suggestion by Chalene Johnson's 30 Day Push, now promoted as her Smart Life Push Journal. 

What do actors do on a daily basis to stay looking so good on camera? For starters, they take care of their skin.

You can't afford to have a job that requires you to be on HD cameras without following morning and nighttime skincare routines.

Now you know that if you have blemishes in your footage, you're not going to use it in your demo reel, which you need to book jobs. That's assuming you can even get your footage, am I right? But if you do luck out and get your footage, you need something you're not embarrassed to use.

So the next time you think you're too tired to wash your face in the morning or before you go to bed, I want you to visualize how embarrassed and aggravated you'll be if you have acne the next time you're on camera.

Not all good skincare products are expensive, but you may need to splurge on a celebrity-grade product if you're really having issues. If that makes your stomach hurt, it's time to get your financial crap together with my favorite free budgeting tool. 

So, how do celebrities have such clear skin? What are their Hollywood skin care secrets? That depends on a number of factors.

Everyone's skin is different. If you want to learn how to get celebrity clear skin, you'll need to experiment with various products to figure out what works best for you. My husband can just wash his dang face with regular soap, but I have a 4-5 step routine.

Let's make this process a little easier:

1. Figure out your skin type. If you want to know how to get glowing skin like celebrities, the best option is to have either a dermatologist or an esthetician tell you their professional opinion of your skin type. Otherwise, try this quiz by Nivea (no email required).
2. Research top products for your skin type. If you want to save some moola, then search for "top drugstore products for (your skin type)."
3. Search for those products in EWG's free Healthy Living app. There's no point in putting unnecessary chemicals on your face. The app may not include every product you find, but I can typically find something with a green approval rating. They rate products based on allergy concerns, reproductive disruption, and cancer risk. That means you should definitely avoid anything with a red rating.
4. Explore skincare routines for your age range. Someone in their 20's needs a very different routine than someone in their 50's, especially if you're a woman. Compare the suggested routine you find to the products you found in the previous steps to see if you have everything you need.
5. Commit to a routine. Some products come as a product line. It's better to stick with their routine than piece together your own with various products. I use Mother Dirt's Skin Recovery Kit. It lasts me over a month. If I need a quick wash, I use a bamboo charcoal sponge or jojoba oil to help remove camera makeup.
   
   

Skincare is part of your job as a professional actor. You'll never regret looking good on camera, and your makeup artists will also be thankful! Good skin is something that will separate you from amateur actors that don't treat acting like a business.

Lastly, I want to discuss the possibility of laser hair removal. Before a shoot, I always need to prep my eyebrows. No matter what I do (tweeze, wax, shave), my forehead breaks out like crazy. This is not acceptable.

I'm considering having that unibrow area laser treated for permanent hair removal. Do you have any experience with that? Please comment to let me know if so! I'll keep you posted on my journey.

***UPDATE: I did try laser hair removal between my eyebrows. At $70 a visit for six visits, I wasn't sold. It may have zapped a few, but not enough for me to stop shaving my unibrow. It's possible those little soft white hairs weren't dark enough. I think it's better to splurge on an at-home device that I can use more often.***

A lot of actors find themselves asking, "What goes on my special skills section of my acting resume?" If you want to know what successful actors have in common, you can bet they develop their special skills. Let's discuss your list of special skills and talents for your acting resume.

It's time to decide on a maximum of three special skills that you can start developing on a daily basis. If you really want to take your special skills to the next level, I highly recommend you implement Cal Newport's Deep Work technique. 

If you've already decided on your special skills:

1. Narrow that list down to three skills 
2. Practice those skills on a daily basis
3. Learn to perform those skills at an expert level

See: Actor Boss Special Skills Free Course on YouTube

You've probably noticed that I post this tip a lot. I once thought it was a "woo woo" practice, but the science has spoken. I feel strongly that the life of a working actor includes expressing gratitude.

If you want to see the research for yourself, then read these articles from Harvard Health Publishing, Psychology Today, and UC Berkley (PDF).

Here are a few ideas on how to start expressing gratitude daily:

• Keep a gratitude journal.
• Give someone a specific compliment expressing why you appreciate them.
• Write selfless thank you cards.
• Before you go to bed say, "Today I was grateful for (fill-in-the-blank)."

Expressing gratitude is also a great way to boost your confidence. You can read more about that in my post How to Build Acting Confidence ASAP. If you want a good laugh, you can also check out 5 Confidence Boosters for Actors.

In summary, expressing gratitude can have a number of positive effects that make you more likable. Set days can be long days, so likable actors just straight up get more referrals and work.

This habit technically has two parts. It's not imperative that you do them together, but I think it will make the exercise easier to implement. 

This gist of this habit is to warm up your vocal cords (even if you're not a singer) and then perform one line of a script three different ways using three different strategies.

First, let's discuss the importance of voice exercises for actors. This is a crucial daily habit for you as an actor even if you're not singing or performing on stage. You can't perform without your voice. You don't want a shoot to get wrapped for the day because you lost your voice. What if a director wants you to perform the same scene 180 times? What if that scene requires intense emotion and you strain your vocal cords?

If you want a strong voice, you also need to practice breath control exercises and techniques. It's very possible you're not be breathing correctly. You can train your physical body to relax via breathing, which in turn will relax your vocal cords. I highly recommend the book Freeing the Natural Voice by Kristin Linklater.

I know you're taking your smartphone with you everywhere, Actor Boss. I recommend that you play vocal exercises on your phone and perform them while you're in the shower and standing. I do not recommend performing these in the car while you're sitting since sitting will change your posture and disrupt your breathing, thus damaging your vocal cords. 

Now that your voice is warm, you should perform this strategy exercise to prepare yourself for a director saying, "Do something different." Essentially, say the same line(s) three different ways to start flexing your strategy muscle. I breakdown that process more in my post How to Run Scene Rehearsals with Confidence.

If you want to be an on-camera actor, I need you to understand something: the editor is going to piecemeal together your various takes, so you might as well give them something different each time. There's no point in worrying about what the final scene will look like because the hard truth is that the editor is going to decide, so make sure they have enough variation to keep your performance from feeling "one note."

If you want to set yourself apart as a professional actor, you need to create a personal development plan. Starting personal development doesn't mean you don't already have strengths; it simply means you're learning new things to help you expand those strengths or grow in your areas of weakness, which everyone has.

Don't confuse learning something new with learning something better. Being an actor requires us to be relatable, multi-dimensional humans. Personal development adds new dimensions to our lives, not necessarily better ones, or maybe it just strengthens what you already have to offer.

Here are a few areas you can develop:

• Relationships
• Spirituality
• Vocation
• Mental health
• Hobbies
• Emotional intelligence
• Finances
• Leadership

Listen, you have the ability to learn and grow, which not everyone has. Start practicing a minimum of ten minutes of personal development per day. I promise you'll get hooked and do more! 

Here are various sources of personal development:

• Books or Ebooks
• Podcasts
• Educational apps
• Workshops or conferences
• Online courses
• Prayer or devotionals
• Weekly training emails
• One-on-one coaching
• Meditation
• Social groups or meetups 
• Workbooks
• Quizzes

My favorites are books, podcasts, and educational apps. I'm about to confess something to you that will make incorporating books much easier: read while you poop. Yep. I said it. It makes both more efficient. Put that phone down, and leave a book in your bathroom. You won't be able to resist reaching for the book. Side note--I also highly recommend the Squatty Potty. That is all.

I'm not asking you to totally give up music, but you should try listening to podcasts while you're driving in your car. Experts are giving you their best tips and advice for free! It's an actor's dream. The trick is to save the episodes that have a ton of good tips so you can listen to them again-and-again or take notes later.

I'm gonna bet you have a smartphone, especially if you're self-taping. Try downloading free apps with brain teasers, puzzles, or word games. If it's been a while since you practiced math, you can seriously go into the app store, type in the word "math," and find a free app to work your brain. We need to fire different parts of our brains to keep us sharp, which can improve our improv abilities at auditions and shoots.

Here are a few benefits of personal development:

• Self-awareness and confidence
• Mental focus 
• Stronger relationships
• Motivation

All four of these benefits are important to an actor. Self-awareness and confidence always look good on you in an audition. Mental focus will help you listen to your scene partner. Stronger relationships will create better sense memories and life experience for your scenes. Motivation will push you forward even when you've been rejected a million times. 

There are a hundred million different articles on how to get into shape, each one attached to a different diet it seems! Our goal for this habit is daily movement for overall health, not weight loss or muscle gain. While those are both valid goals that can be incorporated into this habit, neither are the primary focus.

Your body is your instrument. If it's not working, you're not working. I suggest you exercise or stretch every day simply to keep your body primed for basic functions. Focus on moving your body for at least thirty minutes a day.

You must ultimately decide which exercises are best for you based on your preferences and medical history. If you have a pre-existing condition, then definitely discuss your ideas with your doctor and a trainer.

Here are a few reputable resources to get you started:

• My Fitness Pal
• PopSugar Fitness
• Bodybuilding.com 
• Men's Health
• Shape Magazine
• Livestrong
• Certified personal trainers

This list isn't comprehensive. If you know of another great resource, please feel free to post it in the comments. 

Let's chat more about stretching. It's crucial to do this after performing any physical activity, even walking. I personally need to stretch more. Stretching helps relieve tension and is actually a crucial relaxation technique to adjust your breathing before you perform. You can literally do it anywhere with zero equipment. Even if you only stretched for thirty minutes a day to implement this habit, you'll be doing your body a favor.

It's obvious that our bodies were made to move. Imagine that your body is a car. If you left that car in the yard and didn't crank it or drive it for years, what would happen? It would stop moving! It was made to move and needs to move to keep moving.

I want to mention one more thing for anyone who has a physically demanding job. I know what it's like to be on your feet all day working various part-time jobs and only have time to sleep, work, and eat. If that's currently true for you, you're already moving your body a lot, but you should still incorporate stretching, especially for your feet and legs.

While I still think it's worth scheduling a fully focused once-a-month rehearsal, I started working through my monologues every single day. Holy crap. It has made such a huge difference.

Listen, most film actors may never be asked to perform a monologue at an audition, but you do not want to be the one actor that gets asked and not have one ready to perform. You can learn more about having monologues ready in this post.

Memorizing lines is our job. That means we should adopt the practice of memorizing or rehearsing scripts every single day.  ​You may seriously get cast over someone who has more experience than you just from being more prepared. 

My first professional job was for an industrial gig, and the head honcho producer kept asking us actors to swap lines--entire paragraphs of lines. I was so nervous about embarrassing my friend who got me the job that I ignored everyone who talked to me, plugged my ears, and stepped to the side to memorize.

Guess what? I hit every freaking word every freaking time. The director was impressed, and he cast me a few more times because he knew I would be good for the money. It also greatly built my confidence that I can handle multiple pages of dialogue with last-minute changes, which is a basic requirement of a professional actor. I want you to feel that same confidence.

"Memorizing lines is 99% of your job."  This is what the head of my college theatre department always told us. He would also drop us an entire letter grade if we weren't off-book by the deadline. The reason was simple--you can't think on your feet or make different choices if you're worried about the lines. 

What if you were given 30 pages of dialogue to memorize in a day, every single day? That is the life of television and soap stars.  

I worked with an actor who doubled as the script coach for the show Good Behavior. He told me that the lead actors would immediately come to him after a scene cut to run their lines for the next day's shoot. Could you handle that, Actor Boss? If you start memorizing lines every day, you'll be way more confident when the time comes because it will come. How you respond could make or break your career.

Are you already incorporating some of these daily habits? Comment to let me know which ones and which ones are new to you.

The only way you'll remember to practice these daily habits is to log them on a checklist on your phone that you'll see every day, so go make that list now. Your phone is always with you, and a digital list will be easier to checkmark over-and-over again.

If you really want acting to be more than a hobby, or you're just getting started, then be sure to learn more about Actor Boss on this page. These three stages will help you build a foundation for long-term success.

My first professional booking through my agency was with Audi the car company. The director had directed Tom Hardy in a commercial! Needless to say, I was nervous.

I made a mistake that made me look like such a newb. In this post, I'll reveal the mistake and tell you what to do instead.

It's super embarrassing to think about, but I'm so glad I did it because now I know what not to do. Make it a goal to review a lesson learned each time you leave set.

The commercial script focused on a couple getting ready in the morning, then deciding to go for a ride in their sweet sports car. The final cut doesn't have any lines, just focuses on the car, so I'm not sure if you can even find this version online. If you do, please comment with the link!

We shot a scene in the kitchen drinking our morning coffee and eating breakfast. I was standing at the kitchen island, and my goal was to just be a normal woman in her kitchen on a normal day.

Whenever I moved a plate on the island or sat my coffee mug down, I flinched anytime it made a noise. Then I went so far as to carefully place things on the island so that they didn't make any noise. 

Please don't do this. It makes you look so green.

I'm fairly sure they didn't use any of those shots because they're so unnatural!

Think about how you normally set down a plate or coffee mug on a surface. It makes noise! Just live naturally in your set environment.

I mean don't slam something down on the counter, but ask yourself, "Is this how I normally perform this action?"

I should've just focused on being an actor and let the sound guy tell me if there was a noise issue. Remember, there's an audio team there for a reason. They will let you know if they need you to adjust an action. Don't do their job! Just be an actor!

I also want you to realize that no one on set ever said anything to me about this. They just expected me to be professional. I didn't realize I had done it until after the shoot. You probably won't get much direction, just get labeled as a newbie actor that needs more experience.

I can tell you one thing--Tom Hardy would've just set that coffee mug on the kitchen island like a boss.

My philosophy is that an actor's job is to just be themselves.

Ask yourself next time you're on set, "Is this how I naturally perform this action in my day-to-day life?" Adjust accordingly if not. 

My acting coach has also suggested that I film myself doing daily tasks. His goal was for me to learn how little I actually do so I don't feel awkward doing less on camera. However, you can also use this exercise to study yourself in your natural environment.

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Hey Actor Boss,

Watch this video if you're a screen actor that needs help writing thank you cards. Hint: you do! ​I'm gonna bet that you have great intentions to write thank you cards, but then you let too much time pass after a gig before actually writing them. Here's how to avoid that!

​I took all of these bonus tips and put them into an epic blog post called The Absolute Best Follow-Up Etiquette Every Actor Should Start Using Immediately so you can be a thank you card writing pro. 

See you there,

Spurgeon